Spiritual Maturity

The Law of

Self Responsibility

The Laws of Transcendence, Free Will, and Detachment are the three most outwardly practiced laws that we follow to reach spiritual maturity. The laws to come — Discernment, Humility, and Karma — are the three most inwardly practiced laws that we need to master. The law that links these outwardly and inwardly practiced spheres is the Law of Self-Responsibility.

Spiritual self-responsibility is the concept of each adult person being totally and utterly responsible for the rate of their own transcendence towards spiritual maturity. It holds that we each are responsible for the choices we make as to emotion, thought, and action, and that no other person has any responsibility for those things — even if we or they think they do, or we want them to. The Law of Self-Responsibility holds that every single one of us is an immensely powerful being possessing co-creative power with God. Within that, each of us is responsible for that power, and what we create with it.

Many of us believe that our own creative power is limited, and just as many believe that we have no such power at all; others simply don’t want such power. If we think this way, we follow on to place ourselves completely under the responsibility of another person, situation, or system. And there is no shortage of people standing by to take on such responsibility.

The problem for those seeking spiritual maturity is that when we take on the responsibility and accountability for another person’s spiritual growth, we are putting ourselves in opposition with every single spiritual law.

Consider the following:


  • Transcendence


Taking responsibility for another adult person’s spiritual growth prevents that person from engaging in opportunities to transcend. By taking responsibility for the choices that others make, we prevent the others from learning from their own mistakes — and learning from our own mistakes is a major, and the most common, route to transcendence.

If we do take on such responsibility for somebody else, we immediately set the scene for mutual failure, because the Law of Transcendence is indefatigable (meaning it can’t be avoided, nor overpowered). Transcendence is a private experience requiring profound reflection about personal motives and current state of being, and no person is ever qualified to know the depth and real nature of these two factors in any person other than themselves. Transcendence simply cannot happen without such intimate, personal, raw reflection. And in the reverse: if we want someone else to take responsibility for our transcendence, the set-up for failure is exactly the same.

There are many people who are able to overtly communicate with the personal guides assigned to each and every one of us and who reside in the finer-vibratory realms (variously named “spirit”, “heaven”, “the sixth dimension”, and other such labels for the so-called “afterlife”). It is important for such people to remember that guides from this realm are supposed to be just that — “guides”. They are not supposed to be decision-makers for us. There is no spiritual value in a guide telling us what choices to make — for that would be a direct disregard of our right to transcendence, which is only achieved through free will, detachment, discernment, humility, and self responsibility. No guide who has made their ascension would choose to deny us our opportunity for transcendence (they would immediately start to descend if they denied us our Free Will rights in this manner), which is what they are doing if they are telling us what choices to make. Therefore, those of us with auditory, visual, or otherwise sentient access to our guides must be able to discern whether those guides are offering guidance or directives, and if it is the latter, reflect on the nature of the free-will choices that we subsequently make upon reaching that identification.


  • Free Will


Taking responsibility for another person’s spiritual growth goes against the Law of Free Will because transcendence is achieved through the personal choices we ourselves freely make in how to interpret and deal with people, situations, and information. In order for a choice to result in an upward push, it has to be arrived at from our own higher perspective, not from someone else’s. Borrowing someone else’s perspective without inherently changing our own might get us a material benefit by making us appear to be wise, kind, accepting, or intelligent, but it will be an appearance only, and we’ll be living on borrowed time, even if we can sustain the illusion for a whole lifetime (and if we’re honest enough with our mindfulness, we’ll admit we know both).

Some other free-will things we may say to ourselves include:


  • “It is my free-will choice that you take responsibility for my spiritual growth.”
  • “It is my free-will choice to think what you tell me to think.”
  • “It is my free-will choice to decide what you decide.”
  • “It is my free-will choice to trust who and what you tell me to trust.”


All of these choices are completely within the Law of Free Will and we have every right under the Sun to make them. But at the same time, they are guaranteed to cause our spiritual maturity to stall, stagnate, move downward, and collapse if they are not recognised in time as going against the laws of Transcendence and Self Responsibility, and replaced with more expansive decisions.

Blaming others for our failure to transcend is a denial of the Law of Free Will as well as the Law of Self Responsibility. Further, that false accusation creates another drama to add to the original one. So now there are three laws we are violating: Free Will, Self Responsibility, and Detachment!


  • Detachment


It goes against the Law of Detachment because when we feel responsible for others’ states of being, we will find that our own physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual qualities are heavily influenced by the people and events around us. When we are that closely entwined with some else, if that person takes a decision that results in a downward pull, logically we are sucked into the downward pull as well. At any time in this process we could have remembered to detach from feeling responsible for the person’s own choices as to how to feel, but instead we chose to attach our self to their choice of emotion, which immediately put us in a drama, which then made us blame someone else’s action for our reaction — a view that goes against the Law of Self Responsibility.


  • Discernment


It goes against the Law of Discernment because it is upholding the illusion that genuine transcendence achieved by one person can be siphoned over to another person. As mentioned above in the Free Will section, such illusion can be sustained for a very long time, but it can never be permanent. 

Another way in which it goes against the Law of Discernment is that it indicates we have not been able to see that we are violating the laws of Free Will and Detachment; or worse still, that we do know that we are going against those laws, but that we are unable to discern why our failure to respect them will have an ultimate downward pull on our state of being.

Belief that we are responsible for another adult person’s spiritual maturity is an illusion; the power that illusion wields over us is the very factor that the Law of Discernment is there to neutralise.


  • Humility


It goes against the Law of Humility because at the same time as we take on the illusion of being responsible for someone else’s spiritual maturity, we are leaving ourselves open to the risks of pride in what “we” have done for them. Their accomplishment becomes our personal glory, and this goes against the spirit of a gracious victory, whereby all spiritual glory goes to God, not to us. It instead falls into the ungracious victory category as described within the Law of Detachment. 

We Are Responsible for Overcoming Our Astrology

No doubt each of us has heard at some point in our lives someone say something along the lines of “I can’t help it, I’m a Libra!” or “It’s not his fault he was born an Aries”. [Those of us who don’t accept that the positions of the planets have a bearing on our mood might reflect on why they can accept that the Moon has an effect on anything water-based, including tides, the brain, and blood, but planets more than 100 times the size and megahertz vibration of our tiny Moon have no such effect. If you claim to only accept logic, then you must accept that astrology is real.]

Under the Law of Karma, the astrological configuration under which we are born sets up the perfect conditions for the lessons we agreed to try to master in the material experience we are currently undertaking. Our astrological makeup will present us with occasions to test our progress in attaining certain traits that are needed to achieve Oneness. So it is true that the position of the planets at the time of our birth will cause certain negative traits in our character. But, those traits are there for a reason: they are there to be overcome! They are not there as free pass for us to be obnoxious in some regard or other. We are each responsible for working toward neutralising the negative traits in our psyche that are highlighted in any given lifetime by our personal astrology. Specifically:


  • Being an Aries is not a free pass to lose our temper and intimidate people, it is an indication that we are here to master our temper and control our manners.
  • Being a Taurus is not a free pass to work ourselves into the ground for values that others hold, it is an indication that we are here to master respect for our own values.
  • Being a Gemini is not a free pass to be superficial and duplicitous, it is an indication that we are here to master depth and sincerity.
  • Being a Cancer is not a free pass to be hostage to emotion, it is an indication that we are here to master emotional maturity and refinement.
  • Being a Leo is not a free pass to be dogmatic and narcissistic, it is an indication that we are here to master gentleness and respect for others.
  • Being a Virgo is not a free pass to be a perfectionist and tactless, it is an indication that we are here to master acceptance and graciousness.
  • Being a Libra is not a free pass to be indecisive and co-dependent, it is an indication that we are here to master decisiveness and unity within our own self.
  • Being a Scorpio is not a free pass to be obsessive and jealous, it is an indication that we are here to master genuine self-respect.
  • Being a Sagittarius is not a free pass to be restless and naive, it is an indication we are here to master follow-through and sound judgment.
  • Being a Capricorn is not a free pass to be miserly and materialistic, it is an indication that we are here to master expansiveness and to achieve holistic understanding.
  • Being an Aquarius is not a free pass to be argumentative and moody, it is an indication we are here to master analysis and inner peace.
  • Being a Pisces is not a free pass to be secretive and vague, it is an indication we are here to master groundedness and self expression.


The constant rotation of the planets will ensure that each of us encounters plenty of opportunities to address our astrological challenges in any given lifetime. The responsibility of each of us it to be mindful of when one of our negative traits has reared its head, have the presence of mind to suspend (detach from) the displaying of the trait as we immediately launch a higher-perspective analysis on ourselves, the result of which will assist us in making the free-will choice to detach from the drama that has triggered the anti-Oneness emotion, and thus achieve a major piece of transcendence.

A higher-perspective view of astrology is that far from being superstitious nonsense, it is a divine gift of overt awareness as to what specifically to focus on in this lifetime, and a gift of plenty of opportunities to make mistake after mistake if need be until we learn the lessons and integrate them into our being so that we transcend ever closer towards Oneness.

Material Responsibility is a Sign of Spiritual Maturity

Psychologists tell us that the number-one instinct in each and every person is “survival”. The word “survival” can be taken in many contexts, literal or figurative. From the highest perspective, the ingredients key to our survival boil down to money (food, water, warmth, coolness, clothing, etc. typically all require the payment of money to a provider) and interpersonal relationships (reputations, social standing, platonic love, intimate love, etc.).

When we feel that any of our survival factors are under threat because of something that we have done or said, we often are prepared to be dishonest — deliberately or subconsciously, but dishonest all the same — in order to avoid the responsibility for it. This is because the sudden absence of the factor is a bad enough feeling as it is — we don’t want to add to the burden of being hungry, or cold, or pushed out of a relationship the extra burden of knowing that we were responsible for it. So we deny that our own actions, thoughts, or feelings were behind the loss of our factors for survival. We might:


  • Hold the government’s tax rates responsible for our lack of savings.
  • Hold the power companies’ greed responsible for us not paying the bills on time.
  • Hold the shops responsible for not being open when we run out of something as we are cooking dinner.
  • Hold the baby responsible for making us late when people are waiting for us.
  • Hold our kids’ ages responsible for their poor behaviour in public.


In any of these situations, it was us who had personal responsibility for budgeting, planning, and disciplining to avoid those things. We had free-will choices in all of those examples to think ahead, which meant that we had the ability to completely avoid the dramas (in the form of the threat to survival) in each case. Those two factors — planning ahead and avoiding drama — were our personal responsibility to ensure. The fact that we didn’t ensure them is also something for which we are personally responsible.

We can see here why accepting personal responsibility for our material lives is an important step for spiritual maturity. Self-responsibility is behind the provision of our needs for material and emotional survival, and most dramas that we enter into relate to material needs and emotional entanglements. 

“Reputation at all Costs!” (Even at the cost OF my Reputation)

Sometimes we keep pushing a line of argument that we really do know is wrong because we’d rather be “right” than be seen as the “fool” responsible for a difficult situation. When we do this, we’re actually running the risk of making an actual fool of ourselves. Why? Because chances are that people know that we know we made the wrong choice, and they can plainly see that we are simply trying to save face. These people probably would easily enough get over our mistake if we admit that we were responsible for it and can show them that we will indeed do better next time. (The more emotionally mature the people are, the more they’ll be happy with our acknowledgement of responsibility and just get on with resolving the material problem. The less emotionally mature they are, the more likely we’ll have to endure some degree of haranguing — that’s something we’ll just have to hold a higher perspective of as a means to looking past it rather than letting it get to us. The most emotionally mature people will have instantly recognised our mistake as nothing more than an outcome of the “try-it-and-see” approach to transcendence, and merely been bemused by the whole situation.)

But we are clinging to our “not-my-fault” argument. So the other people in this situation typically will be thinking, “For crying out loud, just admit you made a mistake, and move on! Why are you defending the indefensible? Be man/woman enough to accept you were wrong, and let’s get on with fixing this situation! Geeesch!” In other words: they think we’re being a fool! If they weren’t already thinking we were silly for making the mistake in the first place, they’re certainly thinking we are now — but not for the reason we think they are. We’ve totally lost sight of the fact that in trying to preserve our reputation (whatever we think it is — which might not be what everyone else considers it to be!), we’ve gone and chipped a much more meaningful chunk of it away.

Have you heard of the saying, “It’s not the act that will get you the most jail time, it’s the cover up that turns 5 into 25-to-life”? This saying means that if we accept responsibility for our mistakes as soon as we make them, their impact will be a whole lot less than that if we try to deny that responsibility.

Refusal of self-responsibility for free-will choices that go wrong in our lives is always a pull downward.

What Leaders and Teachers are Responsible For

Those of us in leadership and teaching positions are not exempt from the Law of Self Responsibility, in that we are not responsible for whether our followers and students decide to integrate what we have shown and taught them. Our followers and students have Free Will rights and responsibilities at all times, without exception, and how well they decide to take on board what we show them is spiritually their own decision to make. We are not responsible in any way for those decisions — the bad ones or the good ones.

What we do take responsibility for is trying as many spiritually-valid ways as necessary to get our point across in a manner that has the best chance of being understood or accepted by our people. We are responsible for working on our own states of being so that our perspectives are ever transcending higher and higher, making us better leaders and teachers. We are responsible for living out the best example that we can for them. These are the natures of the things for which leaders and teachers hold responsibility.

Sustained Self-Responsibility is a Major Initiation Passed

We and we alone are responsible for our own transcendence. It us who each will have to master these arts, laws, and principles if we are to become spiritually mature. Our soul mates, friends, parents, siblings, cousins, or children cannot master them on our behalf, and our teachers, leaders, mentors, and guides cannot sit our tests and initiations for us. At times the path can seem extremely lonely — but that is the nature of initiations. An initiation is not an initiation unless it challenges us, and the isolated feeling that we will face again and again on the path, especially once we accept full responsibility for ourselves, is a big challenge. Pushing through such challenges is what brings us ever closer to spiritual maturity.

I have held myself responsible for presenting this law to you in the most accessible manner I currently am able to. That is all. I do not consider myself responsible for how you respond to anything I have written — for how it has left you feeling, or what it will prompt you to do next. All of those choices are completely your responsibility to make, free of me. 

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